Thursday, March 26, 2015

The Weekly Listings Have Moved to Their Own Site


Good evening, gentleman, as I promised you in my blog entry a few nights ago, starting tonight the weekly listings will now be hosted on a new website designed specifically for them. Going forward, this space will be reserved specifically for my sex party reflections and tales of erotic adventure and the listings will be at the new website. 

We still have a few kinks to work out of course. For instance, the listings for each day are in reverse-chornological order on the home page for some reason with the parties that start later in the evening being listed first and then listed backwards until it ends with the first parties of the evening. The guys are looking into that and hopefully they will have it all sorted out in the next few days. But otherwise, it is pretty much ready for you to peruse and enjoy, so head on over to...


...and have a looksy. I look forward to hearing your feedback, and I hope everyone has a fuck-filled weekend and week ahead!

I'll see you there men, and let's be careful out there!




Sunday, March 22, 2015

The Past, Present, and Future of Adventures in Group Sex







Hello Gents, I hope you all had a great Black Party weekend! I trust that many of you are now recovering from a marathon of delicious debauchery as well you should be. It seems like only the day before yesterday when I was writing about the Black Party in one of my first entries in this space – was that really over a year ago? Where does the time go?

Long time readers of this blog may have noticed a reoccurring pattern regarding the contributors to this blog over the years. Usually around this time each year the blogger announces that he is passing the torch on to a new blogger who then takes over full of energy, enthusiasm and ideas for what direction he wants to take the blog in, and then a year later that blogger in turn finds himself exhausted and ready to pass the blog on to a new person having not found the time to do any of the things that he wanted to. There is a reason why this pattern keeps happening and that is that just the job of putting together the listings themselves on a weekly basis is a much bigger challenge and more time consuming then I think people imagine. It certainly is more so than I ever imagined before I actually started doing them myself. And it ends up taking up so much time and energy that it leaves one with little time to do the things they enjoy doing, including writing actual blog entries and attending parties. And after a year of that, any sane individual would be looking for someone else to take on the task so that he could get his life back.

However I, as I’m sure my friends will be happy to tell you, am far from “sane,” and have been known to be driven on more than one occasion by my passions and obsessions. And as the Winter weather freed up my social schedule somewhat in the past few months and I found a smidgen of extra time on my hands, my obsession as of late has been to finally do some of the things with the blog that I wanted to do from the beginning, so I have started to revisit my original intentions.

The first goal that I tried to tackle (and to be honest, I believe I have failed miserably at) was to make the blog a more accurate place for information. I tried to do this by initially sending out an email to all the hosts outlining a revised listings format and requesting that they submit me their information in that format each time that they had a party. The benefits to this, I thought, would be that the information in the listings would always be the most up-to-date information directly from the host, and since I would be receiving it in a standard format, I would be able to simply copy and paste the information into the listings each week and would therefore have time to get to the other things I wanted to do with the blog. As an incentive to get the hosts to take the time to submit me their info in the requested format, I stated that going forward I would only list the parties that were submitted to me in that format.

What I failed to realize, however, was that many hosts didn’t even want their parties listed on the blog in the first place and that their parties had, in fact, been listed against their will for quite some time. Therefore they were more than happy to have their parties dropped from the listings. In addition, many of those that did want their parties listed apparently didn’t want them listed enough to take the time to submit their information to me in the format requested. I was a bit surprised that so many party hosts were unable to take a few minutes to do this for what was essentially free advertising for them.

I also got some rather passionate emails from a few readers and even one of the previous AiGS bloggers protesting the new policy.  The common theme of these emails was that this blog existed and was most useful first and foremost as a comprehensive weekly list of all the sex party options that there are in NYC, regardless of whether they wished to be listed or not. That is what the blog started out being for and what the readers continued to rely on it to be. So although accuracy of the details is, of course, something to aim for, it is more important to readers that I let them know of all the parties that exist and how they can reach out to the hosts themselves to verify the details. I took all this to heart, realized the error of my ways and quickly changed the policy back to the way it was with the only remaining relic being an extra line added to each listing to let readers know if the information was verified or not, meaning if the information had come directly to me from the host, or if I had received it “second hand” and it needed to be verified by the interested party directly with the host.

But now I found myself in the same situation as those who came before me in spending countless hours each week cobbling together information coming in from all different places, all different people and in all different formats. I was finding over time that trying to keep the list thorough and accurate was a bit of a fool’s errand, at least for anyone who also had to take the time to hold down a full time job as well. As the emails continued to mount with constant changes to scheduled dates, times, or the roster of parties themselves, I found myself simply unable to keep up with it all, and therefore there was quite a bit of out-of-date information being carried over on the blog from week to week, and for that I apologize to those who may have been inconvenienced. There were times when even hosts had emailed me asking to correct out-of-date information, it would get lost in the flood of emails in my inbox and I would usually not see it until it was too late. “Oh,” I would think to myself, “if only there were some way that hosts could go in and make changes and corrections themselves and not have to rely on me to get to their email and do it.” But I’m getting ahead of myself. Suffice it to say that I’ve been very much aware that this was an area that I definitely still needed to find a better solution for.

Another goal I had always had for the blog was in the spirit of what those who had emailed me were rallying for, which was to make it a more comprehensive and inclusive listing of all sex parties that may be of interest to gay men. Not just the “big” ones, but also those that may have so far passed under the AiGS radar. I wanted to seek out and start including more parties from the “edge” such as fisting, watersports, “raw” and other fetishes, as well as parties for bi-sexuals, TV’s, TS’s and CD’s. And you may have noticed a move toward including a wider selection of parties as of late.

I also wanted to start including more parties in nearby areas such as Long Island, New Jersey, DC and Philadelphia, and possibly even eventually expanding the blog to regularly include other major gay metro areas such as L.A, San Francisco, Miami/Ft. Lauderdale, even perhaps London and Toronto. (I can’t even being to tell you how many emails I get each week asking me if I know of any blogs like this for one for those cities, and honestly I don’t believe any exist as of yet.)

But perhaps the idea that has been nearest and dearest to my heart was that I’ve always wanted to make this blog a place where all of us in the gay group sex community could share our experiences so that we could help each other find the parties we would most likely enjoy based on our own individual tastes as opposed to the opinion and tastes of only one or two people (like myself for instance). I envisioned AiGS becoming sort of a Yelp for sex parties. A place where the readers were encouraged to share with the collective details that they observed at parties that they attended so that each of you could then have a more informed idea as to which parties might be the right ones for you. And now that I was finding some extra time on my hands in the mists of being snowed in stormy weekend after stormy weekend, I had been able to concentrate on developing this idea and was in the process of implementing it.

The plan was to return somewhat to a format very similar to the one Evan, the founder of this blog started off with over six years ago by posting an entry for each individual party one by one. The entry would have all the information the current listing for the party has now and since each one would be posted individually, each party would have its own page dedicated only to that party. This means that the listings could be more streamlined with links to the individual pages that one could click on to get the most updated information on an individual party, but more than that, the page would always be easily assessable for anyone to leave reviews on (via the comments) or read a history of reviews on. Furthermore, it would make it easier for me to update the information on the party in one place once I received the information instead of trying to keep track of what party is making what change on which week and having to remember to make that change for that week when I’m doing that particular week’s listing. (Did that sentence just confuse you? Trust me when I say it’s even more confusing when you are trying to do it.) For me, it would mean less time having to be spent putting the list together and more time to actually blog. For you the readers, it would mean a permanent web address for each party where you could go for the most up-to-date information without having to wait for the weekly listing to come out, as well as read reviews of the party and perhaps even leave your own. My plan was to announce the new system and then start posting the separate party entries at the beginning of March.

And then I received a letter from Blogger. It wasn’t just for me, actually, it was to everyone who has a blog on Blogger with “adult” visual content. In essence, the email was to inform those of us that have such content on our blog that Google (who now owns Blogger) was no longer going to allow such content in public blogs and that we had one month (the deadline being tomorrow, Monday, March 23rd) to remove such content or the blog would be “locked” so that it would no longer be accessible to the public.

Once I got over my initial sense of disbelief, I started to think of where AiGS’s new home could be. I looked into a few options but I kept going back to my initial instinct which was that perhaps it would be best if AiGS were hosted independently on its own site where I would not have to worry about the changing corporate censorship whims of the likes of Google. I also thought giving AiGS its own site might be an opportunity to design something that was more suitable to the Yelp-ish idea I was trying to implement. The only problem was I didn’t have either the available finances to host a website month after month, or the know-how to put one together, so I shot off an email to the guys who host the Ass Action parties to see if they had any advice on free hosting or free website design. They had recently launched a somewhat elaborate social network for their MEN'S DEN members a few months earlier so I thought they might be able to point me in the right direction. I shared with them my “Yelp for sex parties” idea and described what all I wanted to do on the site and asked if they could give me some advice on free hosting and website design. Instead of just advice, they volunteered to host it on their server and said they would be willing to put together a quick website for me to host the blog and listings on to keep them going. This set off a flurry of emails back and forth where we discussed what the site could look like and what all it would be able to do, and I must say that I became very excited at the possibilities.



The way it would work is very much like the “Yelp for sex parties” I had originally imagined. In addition to hosting my blog, it would be a listings site where every party would have its own page where party-goers could go for the most updated information and leave comments and reviews. Parties would be able to be posted by anyone who came across the information, and if a host were to find his party already posted there by someone else, he couldn’t have it taken down, but he could claim the listing as his own so he would have access to regularly go in and update the information, or even state that the party no longer exists if that is that case. Hosts would not be able to delete comments or reviews, but they would be able to respond to them on the page if they so wished.

One of the best things about the site would be that the weekly listing on the home page would be compiled of information from the individual pages that would automatically update when the details on the pages are changed by a host or admin, so the listings would always have the most recently inputted information. I must admit the idea of having the listings put together for me automatically on a weekly basis was a very intriguing idea indeed. Finally I could spend less time compiling and more time blogging and doing what I haven’t had time to do since I started doing the listings, namely attending more parties! So needless to say I was very excited by the possibilities. I gave the guys the go-ahead and they went to work with an eye on getting the site up and running by Google’s deadline of Monday, March 23rd (less than four weeks off at that point) while I got to work on writing content and trying to figure out the best way to preserve the existing blog before the Google deadline.

One of my main concerns at that point was to find a way to archive all the past posts so that the original entries from Evan, Mickey, Jack, and myself would be preserved, so my first steps were to create a wordpress site and export all of the past posts over to that as well. So now we can all rest assured that there is an archive of all past blog entries (with all “adult” content i.e. photos intact) that cannot be touched or censored by Google (well, as long as wordpress isn’t controlled by Google I suppose). So that put me more at ease.

And then with all this in motion and the clock ticking toward our deadline, Blogger sent out another email with an “Update” to their previous email. Apparently there was quite the uproar over their new content policy and so Google decided not to change their policy after all and will continue to let bloggers post adult content to public sites (at least for now). My reaction to the email was mixed. I must say I was a bit irritated that I had been sent jumping through hoops for no reason, but I was happy to hear that the blog would (at least for now) be able to remain intact where it has been all these years. On the other hand, there had already been a good amount of time, energy and expense put into a site that was coming along very nicely and that I was quite excited about. So there were a few conversations about what to do at this point and I decided that the benefits of hosting the listings on their own site specifically designed for them were too great, not only to myself, but to all the party hosts and to you, the party-goers as well to not go ahead with it. So I made the decision to keep the AiGS blog here at Blogger (while continuing to archive future posts at the wordpress site just in case Google changes its mind again) where I will continue to blog about the going-ons in the world of NYC sex parties, while the weekly listings will now be hosted in a much more user-friendly fashion on the new site.

In addition to giving you all more tools and information to base your party-going decisions on, the new site will also address a large variety of other requests I get on a daily basis. About 95% of the emails that I get each week (other than party invites) are some variation of one of the following: 

 “Hi Adrian, I’m coming to NYC on (dates one-or-two months from now). Can you tell me what parties are going on during those dates?”

The new site has a calendar on it you can use where you can click on a date to see what parties are scheduled for that day, even if that day is well into the future. Just keep in mind that the schedules of sex parties can always be subject to change, but it should at least give those future visitors among you a good enough idea to do your initial NYC Sexcapade planning.

“Hi Adrian, I’m a 23 year old guy only into other in-shape twinks around my age and I only play safe. What parties would you recommend me?”

You will now be able to search specifically for parties base on everything from age range to body type to how selective they are to whether they are safe or not and many other factors to help weed through the masses and find the parties that are most to your liking.


 “Hi Adrian, love your blog. Do you know if there is anything like this for parties in…. (fill in the blank: LA, San Fran, Florida, D.C, Toronto, London, etc.)”

Now the weekly listings will no longer be limited to the NYC area. Guys will be able to post parties and search for them no matter where they take place in the country, or even the world. And you will be able to use a map-based location search to see which parties are nearest you.

“Hi Adrian, can you list our party coming up this Thursday? Here is the info…”

This would typically be an email that would be sent to me three days before a party when the listing for that day has already gone up four days prior. And I typically wouldn’t see this email until the party date had already passed. The new site allows anyone to post a party at any time – just days or even hours before, and it will show up on the listings for that day without having to rely on me checking my inbox and adding their party to the listings in time. Hosts will now be able to just add them themselves.

“Hi Adrian, I’m the host of so-and-so party and the information for tomorrow’s party is wrong. Can you change it to…”

Again, by the time I would see these emails it would usually be too late for me to do anything about it. Now the hosts will be able to go onto their party page and update their info at any time (providing they have already "claimed ownership" of the listing) and it will automatically be updated in the weekly listing on the home page.

“Hi Adrian, do you have an email list that you automatically send the weekly listings out to?”

Not yet, but that will be possible to do with this site and the guys have it on their “To Do” list, so hopefully you will be able to sign up for such an email list in the next few months.

In addition to the listings, there will also be an area where anyone can post a blog entry, whether you’re a fellow party-goers who would like to blog about your own “adventures” or a party host who would like to let everyone know the latest news regarding your parties, so I encourage you all to take advantage of that, both party-goers and hosts alike.

There will also be a photo feed for you all to view and share your favorite group sex photos and a forum where you can ask for or share advice or thoughts on all things group sex.

One of the good things about Google backing down from their policy change was that it allowed us more time to get the site ready because, quite frankly, I seriously doubt it would have been in an acceptable presentable shape by tomorrow if the deadline was still on. I am being told, however, that everything should be in working order (or mostly in working order as they work all the buggaboos out) by the time the listings are scheduled to go up this Thursday, so I am hoping that the currently posted listings will be the last ones in the old form and you will be able to find the listing on the new site this Thursday. If all goes well, I’ll post an entry here on Thursday letting you know where you can find the listings from now on. If all does not go well, I’ll post the traditional “static” listings for the coming week and we will shoot for the following Thursday instead. But let’s hope all goes well and you all will be surfing through a new site of listings this Thursday.

I look forward to hearing from you all what you think of it.


Until then, have fun at the parties and be careful out there!


Thursday, March 19, 2015

Group M4M Sex Parties for the week of Friday, March 20th, to Thursday March 26th



My dear fellow group-sex aficionados:

It's Black Party Weekend! Which means thousands of visitors in town for the festivities and plenty of the usual suspects having special Black Party Parties of their own! So let's dive right in to all the week has to offer, shall we?

Here is a listing of all the parties I *believe* to be happening this week. If the host/s has confirmed the details of the party directly with me then I list the details as "VERIFIED." If the hosts have not confirmed the party details with me, I list the details as "UNVERIFIED." 
I highly recommend that you do not attend a party going solely off of the information here without contacting the hosts first, especially if the information here is UNVERIFIED. Most parties do require that you submit pics and stats and that you are added to an invite list before you can attend, and there is always the chance of last minute changes or cancellations. 

Another great source for finding parties is the "Parties and Events" section of adam4adam.com, so I recommend that you check that site for parties as well, especially if you are looking for parties outside of the NYC area.


A GUIDE TO DOOR POLICIES

Here is a listing of what the different “DOOR POLICY” terms mean. These should not be taken as an indication of how “good” a party is. I have been to some Very Selective parties where I have been bored because there were mostly men standing around acting like they were all too good for each other, and I’ve also been to Open Door parties that have been full-out fuckfests filled with lots of hot group action. These categories are simply intended to be a guide as to whether the party is one you would physically fit in to and an indication as to what kinds of body types you will likely find there.  

Here are the Door Policy Categories:

Very Selective – Generally only for men under age 45 with average (as in no bellies) to athletically fit bodies. Some of these parties have a lower age limit, with some limited to only men in their 20s and early 30s.

Selective – Similar to "Very Selective," but usually allowing a larger range of ages and some attractive slightly out-of-shape men. But you will also usually find quite a few men in great shape at these parties as well.

Somewhat Selective – A wide range of body types. You may find some above-average athletic men and also some out-of-shape men with extra pounds on them, but not overly obese. Most guys at these parties tend to have average bodies.

Not Selective – All body types are allowed. You still need to be on an invite list in order to attend, and with some Not Selective parties you may need to meet some other entrance criteria such as age or race.

Open Door – General admission. Everyone is welcome and you don’t need to be on an invite list in order to attend. Just show up.


Here are the parties for this Friday through Thursday:



Friday, March 20th


NEW YORK CUMUNION (NYCU) NAKED/LEATHER/JOCKSTRAP AFTERNOON PARTY (Chelsea) FROM THE HOSTS: "Action starts at noon so men can drop by and get some MANMEAT for lunch. Guys flying in early" (for the Black Party) "can check their luggage in our clothes check area and get off before checking into their hotel rooms. CumUnion is a national men's party presented across the U.S., Canada and United Kingdom by CumHunt.com, sponsored by BBRT.com and hosted in New York by Cade/ MilkChocolateNYC Men's Party. The​ New York City edition of CumUnion is now structured as a Private Men's Membership Party where friendly, drama-free and drug-free MEN of all races, age 18 and over, are welcome to join. CumUnion Membership Cardholders agree to abide by party rules and receive admission discounts the first two hours at each bi-monthly event. Each party has a designated Oral Fetish/ Safe Play Zone on the 2nd level the first three hours of each party and a dimly lit Backroom for hardcore action Both men into uninhibited (BB) play, and men that play safe with condoms from beginning to end, are invited to get off in a fun, safe, welcoming and non-judgemental environment. Everyone encouraged to use the free condoms provided BUT our staff do not act as "Condom Police" for mature adult Gay men! Everyone required to respect everyone's individual party limits!!! Members required to follow posted Party Rules such as No Drugs; No alcoholic beverages/ drunken behavior; No Smoking; No Rude/ Aggressive Behavior or extreme play. Cell phones and cameras are not allowed in play areas and must be stored in the secured clothes check area along ALL valuables. Party helpers are on hand to monitor the party and handle any issue. Also, Michael, a licensed Mt. Sinai Hospital staff member, will be on hand during specific events for men interested in free on-site/confidential Men's Health Tests or PreP, men's health referral services." 
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY:  Open Door
VIBE:  No attitude. Friendly regulars at every event
SS/BB:  Safe Play Only on 2nd level first 2 hours;  bareback and safe play in Backroom
DONATION: $25 ($22 before 3pm w/ Milk NYC Membership Card)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms available
TIME: 12 Noon - 6pm
FREQUENCY: Bi-monthly
CROWD:  80+ average joe's to in-shape men of all races
AGE:   Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Paddles Sex Club
LIGHTING: Good with some dark areas
A GOOD PARTY FOR:  Men into monitored/ safe play and Poz/ Poz-friendly guys into barebacking. Good fit for men that enjoy interracial interaction with both young/ fit men and middle-aged average joe's, bears and older men.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who have racial and age hang-ups.  Guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN:  Email "NYCU" to milkchocolatenyc@gmail.com. More info:
  www.cumunion.com


MMX After Work EDGE into Spring (Chelsea) 
THE HOST SAYS: “A 90-minute JO party like no other. Guys form a circle and start off with some stress reducing shoulder and neck massage, slowly making their way down to a hard cock and undressing each other. Edging techniques are demonstrated to prolong release and use energy to attempt a full body orgasm. Small groups form and lots of hot cock stroking happens - when the group hits that wave, the two bukakke guys drop to their knees......It’s Hot, Safe, and 30-40 Loads of Fun!" 
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Very Selective
VIBE: No attitude, social and friendly, nice guys 
SS/BB: A Safe Sex party 
DONATION: $20. Mention Adventures in Group Sex and Save $5 off your first event.


SUPPLIES: Lube, Blindfolds, Snacks, Water
TIME: 6 pm to 7:45pm (door closes at 6:15pm – no late-cummers)
FREQUENCY: 2 times a month, days vary
CROWD: 10-25 guys, tight and in-shape friendly guys, all races.
AGES: 23 – 48
SPACE: A private professional large studio space near Union Square.
LIGHTING: You can see everyone – Dimly lit
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Friendly in-shape horn-dogs into sensual fun sexy safe play with other hot guys. Mainly a 30s mixed -race crowd from tight guys to big muscle boys.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys looking for an anon scene or shy and modest guys who want to watch or stay in the corner. Guys who have attitude.
GETTING IN: Members and member guests. Send request with stats and photos to mmxnyc@gmail.com or check out www.mmxnyc.com and join to get on our lists for free.
 
THE OMEGA PARTY (Long Island City, Queens) Large party in a huge industrial loft-type space with private rooms, booths, a "cinema lounge" and one particularly dubious pitch-black area. Only 10 minutes from Manhattan. A decent party for average guys.
THE HOST SAYS: "Hot playground with mixed crowd: Latinos , Blacks, Whites, Asians, twinks, muscle guys and bears."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $20
SUPPLIES: Refreshments , snacks, condoms and lube
TIME: 8pm-4am
FREQUENCY: Every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday
CROWD: 70 to 120 guys per party, racially mixed (60% white, 40% mixed).
AGE: age ranges from 40s to 70YOs
SPACE: former warehouse-type space loft
LIGHTING: Mostly good, some spaces pitch black
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races especially Latinos, average and out-of-shape guys, guys into anon scenes.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN: Send pics and stats to playgroundqueens@aol.com


NYC NAKED WRESTLERS ( Gramercy) This week NYC Naked Wrestlers is taking over the whole evening over at the Gramercy Duplex. METROPOLIS is scheduled to return next week.
THE HOSTS SAY: "New York's only wrestling group where men go completely naked and give in to the ultimate sexual surrender at the end of each match while surrounded by naked members getting off with one another on the sidelines. Two floors: first one offering wrestling/sex matches, second one combined group sex party with the select men of TESTOSTERONE. Open to all fit in-shape guys who enjoy watching or participating in naked combat without restrictions or limitations, exhibitionists and voyeurs welcome to attend, and there is no pressure to participate in the matches unless interested in doing so."

DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Social and Friendly 
SS/BB: Both barebacking and safe sex
DONATION: $25 entry, and clothes-check gratuities are appreciated
SUPPLIES: Condoms and Lube
TIME: 9pm-3am, doors close at 11pm
FREQUENCY: several times a month, usually every other Friday
CROWD: 40-60 guys
AGE: All ages (over 21)
SPACE: Private Penthouse Duplex apartment with two bathrooms
LIGHTING: 1st floor brightly-lit for wrestling matches on the mats, 2nd floor Viewing Gallery and darkened Lounge for the group sex orgy
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Anyone who enjoys watching naked guys wrestle and have sex on the mats. Guys interested in exploring their desire to participate in these kind of matches. Guys who enjoy hooking up with masculine men for hot, hardcore, no-attitude fun. Friendly, outgoing individuals who enjoy interracial interaction.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy and modest guys. Men with racial hang-ups. Guys who parTy. High-maintenance types with an attitude.
GETTING IN: Send stats and a recent shirtless pic from the waist up to Nick at nycnakedwrestlers@gmail.com or check out www.gayguysglobal.net


 
INTERRACIAL SEX GATHERING (Crown Heights, Brooklyn) THE HOSTS SAYS: "Guys who felt my sex events lack a certain something and wanted a sex event just for their wild inhibited freaky side. This is a no judgement party unless your overweight. Where keeping the crowd slim for this one. Again guys this is an all race welcome sex party. Inviting Black, Asian, European, Lation, Arabic, Indian, Jewish etc."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS / BB: Barebacking and safe sex
DONATION: $16 before Midnight, $20 after
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, drinks
TIME: 10pm-5:30am
FREQUENCY: Held on Saturdays
CROWD: Varies
AGE: Unknown
SPACE: Private Apartment
LIGHTING: Unknown
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Men of all different races into men of all different races, guys who like to bareback
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who like to play safe, guys with racial hangups, out of shape guys.
GETTING IN: Send email to
andyhong134@gmail.com and request to be put on the invite list. 

NYJP KINK AND___PARTY (Midtown) New York Jock Party is one of the largest parties in NYC and also widely considered one of the best for those looking for jocks with toned and muscled physiques. The host is very discriminating so the place is filled with hot men. It can also at times be filled with attitude, but that seems to come with the territory. This is not a party for the modest or shy as you are required to check everything including your underwear, and you will be given a small towel to cover up. 
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
RATING: Very Selective
VIBE: Attitude
TIME: 10pm-5:30am, door closes at 5am
CROWD: 50-70 young, hot men
AGES: Mostly 20s and 30s, a few in-shape men in their 40s
DONATION: $30 before 2am, $25 2am-3am, $20 after 3am
SS/BB: Barebacking and safe sex
SPACE: Hot, clean, huge studio space, two bathrooms, shower
SUPPLIES: Drinks, snacks, condoms/lube.
FREQUENCY:  Two times a month, Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays, sometimes Thursdays
LIGHTING: Good, with some dark corners
GETTING IN: Send stats and pics to thenyjp@gmail.com

HARLEM SMASHFEST (Central Harlem) THE HOST SAYS: "Kum thru and put some Spring in the air!. Harlem SmashFest . . . uptown's hottest spot for makin it pop. Must be 18 - 45 (or tite A.F.). Smoking is definetly allowed. Uptown and South Bx sexxiest topz, bottomz and verse dudes on fleek. suprememgmt1@yahoo.com for full details.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
RATING: Somewhat selective
VIBE: Chill
TIME: 11pm-4am, door closes at 3am
CROWD: Small, intimate crowd, 5-15, mostly men of color, some white
AGES: 18-45
DONATION: $10
SS/BB: Barebacking and safe sex
SPACE: Private Apartment
SUPPLIES: Drinks, snacks, condoms/lube.
FREQUENCY:  Every Friday and Saturday night
LIGHTING: Low
GETTING IN: Send stats and pics to suprememgmt1@yahoo.com for full details


THUGS 4 THUGS SEX PARTY (Brooklyn) Hot party for Black and Latino guys, and guys who love big black cocks.
THE HOSTS SAYS: "Weekly sex parties in Brooklyn NY for in-shape men of color and a very very select few whites who send pics and get approved....I have the biggest and best Safe Sex party that continues to grow and become more popular. My parties are discrete and well organized. No shirts or under shirts are allowed. If your stomach is too big, you will not get in. No weed smoking or illegal drugs are allowed. I provide a safe, comfortable, spacious environment for men of color."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS / BB: Safe sex only
DONATION: $15
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, refreshments, fresh clean towel
TIME: 12midnight-7am
FREQUENCY: held every Friday, Sat and Sunday
CROWD: Varies
AGE: 18-40
SPACE: Huge space, two floors.
LIGHTING: A bit dark but eyes get used to it.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Men of color, men into men of color, men who like to play safe
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Barebackers, out of shape guys.
GETTING IN: Check out http://thugs4thugsex.com or email bkthugparty@alisthomeinspection.com with your pics and stats



ENCORES PARTY (Chelsea). After-hours party. Often attended by restaurant and bar employees after those places shut down. You don't have to have an invitation or be on a list or anything. It can be incredibly hot, but sometimes it is hit or miss. This is not a mandatory clothes check party but it is highly recommended that you check your valuables. Pickpockets have been known to clean out pockets while pants are around ankles. I also find the level of aggression to be higher at this party than most and that it seems to attract a handful of men that do not know how to respect boundaries or take "no" for an answer. But as long as you go in armed with this knowledge and react accordingly, there are usually some hot early morning times to be had here.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: no attitude
SS/BB: Safe sex and BB
DONATION: $20
SUPPLIES: condom/lubes
TIME: 3am-7am, (The party really takes off around 4am when many bars close)
FREQUENCY: every Friday and Saturday night
CROWD: Gets around 70 people on Fridays and 100 Sat. night (Sun. morning).
AGE: no restriction
SPACE: Paddles sex club
LIGHTING: Good, some dark areas
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who like a diverse crowd, voyours, average and out-of-shape guys, tourists/visitors, guys who want to get off after the bars before they head home.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys only into gym bodies, guys with attitude.
GETTING IN: Check out Paddles' website for location and directions: http://paddlesnyc.com/



Saturday, March 21st

NEW YORK CUMUNION "ALL NUDE/LEATHER" PARTY (NYCU) (Chelsea) FROM THE HOSTS: "CumUnion is a national men's party presented across the U.S., Canada and United Kingdom by CumHunt.com, sponsored by BBRT.com and hosted in New York by Cade/ MilkChocolateNYC Men's Party. The​ New York City edition of CumUnion is now structured as a Private Men's Membership Party where friendly, drama-free and drug-free MEN of all races, age 18 and over, are welcome to join. CumUnion Membership Cardholders agree to abide by party rules and receive admission discounts the first two hours at each bi-monthly event. Each party has a designated Oral Fetish/ Safe Play Zone on the 2nd level the first three hours of each party and a dimly lit Backroom for hardcore action Both men into uninhibited (BB) play, and men that play safe with condoms from beginning to end, are invited to get off in a fun, safe, welcoming and non-judgemental environment. Everyone encouraged to use the free condoms provided BUT our staff do not act as "Condom Police" for mature adult Gay men! Everyone required to respect everyone's individual party limits!!! Members required to follow posted Party Rules such as No Drugs; No alcoholic beverages/ drunken behavior; No Smoking; No Rude/ Aggressive Behavior or extreme play. Cell phones and cameras are not allowed in play areas and must be stored in the secured clothes check area along ALL valuables. Party helpers are on hand to monitor the party and handle any issue. Also, Michael, a licensed Mt. Sinai Hospital staff member, will be on hand during specific events for men interested in free on-site/confidential Men's Health Tests or PreP, men's health referral services." 
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY:  Open Door
VIBE:  No attitude. Friendly regulars at every event
SS/BB:  Safe Play Only on 2nd level first 2 hours;  Safe/ BB play in Backroom
DONATION: $25 ($22 before 3pm w/ CumUnion or Milk NYC Membership Card)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms available
TIME: 1pm to 6pm
FREQUENCY: Bi-monthly
CROWD:  80+ average joe's to in-shape men of all races
AGE:   Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Paddles Sex Club
LIGHTING: Good with some dark areas
A GOOD PARTY FOR:  Men into monitored/ safe play and Poz/ Poz-friendly guys into barebacking. Good fit for men that enjoy interracial interaction with both young/ fit men and middle-aged average joe's, bears and older men.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who have racial and age hang-ups.  Guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN:  Email "NYCU" to milkchocolatenyc@gmail.com. More info:
  www.cumunion.com


DICKPLAY PARTY (Bronx) Party at Ed and Steve’s, an interracial couple. The hosts think of the group as being a hand selected group of guys who are into interracial sex and don't have attitudes. It's a mix of guys, white, black, Latin, occasionally Asian. Most guys are naked, but not required. 
THE HOSTS SAY: "Announcing the grand reopening at new Bronx location.Mandatory Total Nudity (no undergarments, jock straps, flip flops, socks, headgear, jewelry) We provide refreshments and snacks, condoms and lube. Bring your own booze. No glass bottles. 
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
RATING: Not Selective
VIBE: Laid back, no attitude
TIME:
7pm to 2am 
CROWD: 20-40 men
AGES: 18-60s (Average age is 35-45+)
DONATION: $10 before 8pm $20 after
SS/BB: Some safe sex, but mostly BB
SPACE: Private apartment
SUPPLIES: Condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: Usually twice a month, but often weekly (on weekends)
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: Send pics and stats to EdAndSteve@verizon.net; or check out http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EdAndSteve




THE OMEGA PARTY (Long Island City, Queens) Large party in a huge industrial loft-type space with private rooms, booths, a "cinema lounge" and one particularly dubious pitch-black area. Only 10 minutes from Manhattan. A good party for average guys.
THE HOST SAYS: "Hot playground with mixed crowd: Latinos , Blacks, Whites, Asians, twinks, muscle guys and bears."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $20
SUPPLIES: Refreshments , snacks, condoms and lube
TIME: 8pm-5:30am
FREQUENCY: Every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday
CROWD: 70 to 120 guys per party, racially mixed (60% white, 40% mixed).
AGE: age ranges from 40s to 70YOs
SPACE: former warehouse-type space loft
LIGHTING: Mostly good, some spaces pitch black
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races especially Latinos, average and out-of-shape guys, guys into anon scenes.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN: For more party info contact the hosts at playgroundqueens@aol.com



THE BLACK PARTY (Crown Heights, Brooklyn) The mother load of sex parties has relocated to Brooklyn this year. I suppose this technically is a "dance" party or "circuit" party, but you would be hard pressed to find more sucking and fucking at any party any where at any time than you will here. This usually attracts around 5000 men from all over the globe and is definitely something to be experienced. (Sidenote: The guys from the Swallow party are meeting up at the Black Party to organize a huge bukkake gokkun session at 4am. You can email them at swallow_nyc@yahoo.com for more details.)
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Loud madness
SS / BB: A lot of barebacking, some safe sex as well
TICKETS: $180 before 8am, $50 after. $60 for those under 26 with valid ID before 12:30am or after 4am
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, drinks available at cash bar
TIME: 10pm Saturday night until whenever it winds down Sunday afternoon
FREQUENCY: Once a year in March
CROWD: About 5000 men of all types, all races

AGE: 21 and over
SPACE: Warehouse
LIGHTING: Club lighting, the backroom areas have traditionally had pitch black rooms
GETTING IN: Visit www.blackpartyexpo.com/tickets/ for ticket purchase locations.


EDEN UNDERGROUND (Gramercy) A party for TV's, TS's, CD's and their admirers.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: Unknown
SS / BB: Unknown
DONATION: Men $40, couples $60, Trans ladies are complementary admission
SUPPLIES: Unknown
TIME: 11pm-4am
FREQUENCY: Unknown
CROWD:
Unknown 
AGE: Unknown 
SPACE: Large loft space
LIGHTING: Low with some dark corners
GETTING IN: Email edenunderground2@gmail.com to get on their email list. Call 212-726-2539 for details and discounts. 

HARLEM SMASHFEST (Central Harlem) THE HOST SAYS: "Kum thru and put some Spring in the air!. Harlem SmashFest . . . uptown's hottest spot for makin it pop. Must be 18 - 45 (or tite A.F.). Smoking is definetly allowed. Uptown and South Bx sexxiest topz, bottomz and verse dudes on fleek. suprememgmt1@yahoo.com for full details.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
RATING: Somewhat selective
VIBE: Chill
TIME: 11pm-4am, door closes at 3am
CROWD: Small, intimate crowd, 5-15, mostly men of color, some white
AGES: 18-45
DONATION: $10
SS/BB: Barebacking and safe sex
SPACE: Private Apartment
SUPPLIES: Drinks, snacks, condoms/lube.
FREQUENCY:  Every Friday and Saturday night
LIGHTING: Low
GETTING IN: Send stats and pics to suprememgmt1@yahoo.com for full details

BUTTNAKED DUKES (Midtown) The NUBIAN DUKES party with a more relaxed door.
THE HOSTS SAY: "
For in-decent shape and under 45ish Brothas-Latinos. Sorry but no smoking or any kind of drugs. Cellphones and watch lights not allowed in back areas.
Sign in with ya email address even tho we have it. U will need if u forget ya bag
Handle ya hygiene before you get to party. Don't tie up the bathrooms!
"
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: N/A
SS/BB: A lot of barebacking, some safe sex
DONATION: 
$15 in first hour or for first 25 dudes, $22 after (please bring exact change)
SUPPLIES: Towels, supplies, and liquids provided
TIME: 11:30pm-5:30am
FREQUENCY: several times a month, usually on a Friday
CROWD: 100 guys
AGE: 21 to mid 40's
SPACE: Loft

LIGHTING: N/A
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Men looking to play with men of color.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys looking to play with white men. Out of shape men.
GETTING IN: Send stats and a recent shirtless pic from the waist up to 
nubiandukesnyc@yahoo.com


ENCORES PARTY (Chelsea). After-hours party. Often attended by restaurant and bar employees after those places shut down. You don't have to have an invitation or be on a list or anything. It can be incredibly hot, but sometimes it is hit or miss. This is not a mandatory clothes check party but it is highly recommended that you check your valuables. Pickpockets have been known to clean out pockets while pants are around ankles. I also find the level of aggression to be higher at this party than most and that it seems to attract a handful of men that do not know how to respect boundaries or take "no" for an answer. But as long as you go in armed with this knowledge and react accordingly, there are usually some hot early morning times to be had here.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: no attitude
SS/BB: Safe sex and BB
DONATION: $20
SUPPLIES: condom/lubes
TIME: 3am-7am, (The party really takes off around 4am when many bars close)
FREQUENCY: every Friday and Saturday night
CROWD: Gets around 70 people on Fridays and 100 Sat. night (Sun. morning).
AGE: no restriction
SPACE: Paddles sex club
LIGHTING: Good, some dark areas
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who like a diverse crowd, voyours, average and out-of-shape guys, tourists/visitors, guys who want to get off after the bars before they head home.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys only into gym bodies, guys with attitude.
GETTING IN: Check out Paddles' website for location and directions: http://paddlesnyc.com/



Sunday, March 22nd

THE BEAR PARTY (Chelsea)
THE HOST SAYS: "NYC's premier sex party for bears, cubs, chubs and chasers."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: S/S and BB. "We encourage safe sex and provide condoms and lube but don't police it. "
DONATION: $25
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube
TIME: 1:30 to 5:30pm
FREQUENCY: Weekly on Sundays and Wednesdays

CROWD: 30-50 guys of all ages
LOCATION:Paddles club, basement level
LIGHTING: Good, dark in some rooms
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races, average and out-of-shape guys.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies. Guys who like to parTy.
GETTING IN: For more info you may contact info@bearpartynyc.com or go to bearpartynyc.com to join



BEARCAVE (Gramercy)
THE HOSTS SAY: “This is an all-inclusive party for all big men of different shapes, sizes, races, and their admirers. Bringing the Bear and Chub Communities together for hot steamy afternoon fun. A great way for anyone looking to get off before the weekend wraps up."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Social and Friendly
SS/BB: A mix of safe sex and barebacking
DONATION: $25, and clothes-check gratuities are appreciated
SUPPLIES: Condoms and Lube
TIME: 2pm-6pm (Doors close at 5pm)
FREQUENCY: Weekly
CROWD: 40-50 guys, all welcome: bears, cubs, chubs, super chubs, twinks, otters, wolves, and bulls
AGE: All ages (over 21)
SPACE: Private duplex apartment with two bathrooms
LIGHTING: Good, some darker areas upstairs
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who enjoy hooking up with hairy and large masculine men. Friendly, outgoing individuals who enjoy interracial interaction. Men into facial hair, tattoos, and fur-covered action.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy and modest guys. Men with racial hang-ups. Guys who like to parTy.
GETTING IN: Request invite at: bearcavenyc@verizon.net. You can find more info at: www.gayguysglobal.net


 NEW YORK JACKS (Midtown) Safe-sex party for guys who like to jerk off.
THE HOSTS SAY: "Get naked with us and enjoy man to man cock play....Mutual masturbation between consenting adults is legal and safe. Probably the safest activity you can do except for solo J/O. We are a friendly group of guys and we are all there for the same reason and to have fun. You'll see guys there of all ages, body types, sizes, etc. There will be tall, short, hairy, well endowed, young, older, all races, gay, married, bi-, etc. We don't discriminate against physical attributes, only inappropriate behavior."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Not Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS/BB: N/A
DONATION: $25 ($20 with membership card)
SUPPLIES: N/A
TIME: Doors open 4pm to 6pm, jerking until 7pm.
FREQUENCY: Every Sunday and Tuesday. (Check for different hours on Tuesday)
CROWD: Varies, all type of bodies, races, and ages from hot young guys to muscle guys to older guys. (Usual attendance numbers have not been given.)
AGES: 18-60s
SS/BB: N/A
SPACE: A loft-type space
SUPPLIES: N/A
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: Request location and directions at their site: http://www.nyjacks.com/
Follow them on Twitter twitter.com/nyjacks and on Tumblr at nyjacks.tumblr.com


THE OMEGA PARTY (Long Island City, Queens) Large party in a huge industrial loft-type space with private rooms, booths, a "cinema lounge" and one particularly dubious pitch-black area. Only 10 minutes from Manhattan. A good party for average guys.
THE HOST SAYS: "Hot playground with mixed crowd: Latinos , Blacks, Whites, Asians, twinks, muscle guys and bears."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $17
SUPPLIES: Refreshments , snacks, condoms and lube
TIME: 6pm-2am
FREQUENCY: Every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday
CROWD: 70 to 120 guys per party, racially mixed (60% white, 40% mixed).
AGE: age ranges from 40s to 70YOs
SPACE: former warehouse-type space loft
LIGHTING: Mostly good, some spaces pitch black
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races especially Latinos, average and out-of-shape guys, guys into anon scenes.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN: For more party info contact the hosts at playgroundqueens@aol.com


NEW YORK BONDAGE CLUB (Chelsea) For anyone who has a taste for sex with a kinky side (leather, rope, spanking, etc) it's a good place to get satisfied on a Sunday night. Sex is no longer banned. Sucking, fucking, whatever, are all allowed now at all times. It's common to see guys tied down and fucked. Or a dom directing sex between two roped subs.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Not selective
VIBE: no attitude
TIME: 7pm-2am
CROWD: varies
AGE: It's always a mixed crowd in terms of age.
SS/BB: Safe sex
SPACE: Held in a BDSM club, the party scene includes cages, restraints, bondage crosses, stocks and all sorts of devices to aid in tying people up and getting them off.
SUPPLIES: Condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: Every Sunday night
LIGHTING: At 11pm they turn down the lights in all areas except the bar at the front. In these darker areas, there's now a dress code of no street clothes. You have to wear no more than underwear, or you can wear fetish wear (leather, rubber, and the like).
GETTING IN: Check out the site at www.NYBondageClub.com




PEAK (Chelsea) One of the “Chelsea Duplex Parties” held in a space close to Penn Station.
THE HOST SAYS: “This is a spacious duplex apartment party for height/weight proportional (so please be) men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating vibe. This is an alternative to the “stand-and-pose” parties. Lube and condoms always available. Two levels, three playrooms, leather sling, loft bed, glory holes. Diverse music. No one would be “required” to participate, so taking things slow or whatever, is up to you. Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions are probably not right for the vibe of this party. You can bring a friend if he fits these criteria. Thank you."

VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating
SS/BB: Safe Sex
DONATION: $20 (occasional comps for regulars or for a slow party)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms always available
TIME: 6pm to 11pm (doors close at 10pm)
 
FREQUENCY: Every Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Thursday
CROWD: Height/weight proportional men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. 15-30 men.
AGE: Most are over age 30, all are o
ver 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Duplex: 1st floor and basement levels
LIGHTING: Not brightly lit, but enough light for the voyeurs. Candles, strip lighting, lasers, lava lamp, TV.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Middle aged men, 30-somethings, young guys who go for older, all races but two-thirds white, low maintenance
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions. Also not for high-maintenance types, those who place great emphasis on the gym, or have an attitude.
GETTING IN: Send age and pic to Scott at theorgyguy@gmail.com. Courtesy is always appreciated.


BOXERS NOR BRIEFS (Midtown) About once a month the hot jocks of NYJOCK PARTY--NYJP meet the college dudes of GOLDEN BOYS USA in this huge sex party. This is one of the best parties for young in-shape guys. You are required to be completely nude when the party is held in the Midtown space, but if you are in good shape and not shy or modest, then this party is not to be missed.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Very Selective
VIBE: Some attitude
SS / BB: Barebacking and safe sex
DONATION: $33 7pm-Midnight, $25 after
SUPPLIES: Snacks. Condom/lube.
TIME: 7pm-4am
FREQUENCY: About once a month
CROWD: Around 200 guys
AGES: Mostly 20s and 30s, a few in-shape men in 40s
SPACE: Hot, clean, huge duplex space, two bathrooms
LIGHTING: Good, sometimes too dark for such hot men
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Jocks, in-shape twinks.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy or modest guys, guys over 40 (unless you are in great shape), guys with average or below average bodies.
GETTING IN: Send stats and pics to: thenyjp@gmail.com or ChrisHawkeGBU@aol.com or check out www.GoldenBoysUSA.com


THUGS 4 THUGS SEX PARTY (Brooklyn) Hot party for Black and Latino guys, and guys who love big black cocks.
THE HOSTS SAYS: "Weekly sex parties in Brooklyn NY for in-shape men of color and a very very select few whites who send pics and get approved....I have the biggest and best Safe Sex party that continues to grow and become more popular. My parties are discrete and well organized. No shirts or under shirts are allowed. If your stomach is too big, you will not get in. No weed smoking or illegal drugs are allowed. I provide a safe, comfortable, spacious environment for men of color."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS / BB: Safe sex only
DONATION: $15
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, refreshments, fresh clean towels
TIME: 9pm-3am
FREQUENCY: held every Friday, Sat and Sunday
CROWD: Varies
AGE: 18-40
SPACE: Huge space, two floors.
LIGHTING: A bit dark but eyes get used to it.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Men of color, men into men of color, men who like to play safe
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Barebackers, out of shape guys.
GETTING IN: Check out http://thugs4thugsex.com or email bkthugparty@alisthomeinspection.com with your pics and stats




FINAL DESTINATION (Crown Heights, Brooklyn). From the host: "This is an all nude party. No exception and no negotiation about it at all. Strip at door. For fit men in shape only, no one waist over 36 will not get in."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: no attitude.
TIME: SUN. 11:30pm-4am
CROWD: AGES: mostly 20s and 30s, few in-shape men in their 40s
DONATION: $10 all night
SS/BB: A safe sex party
SPACE: private apartment
SUPPLIES: Drinks, snacks, condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays.
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: send stats and pics to finaldestination1514@yahoo.com


Monday, March23rd

PEAK (Chelsea) One of the “Chelsea Duplex Parties” held in a space close to Penn Station.
THE HOST SAYS: “This is a spacious duplex apartment party for height/weight proportional (so please be) men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating vibe. This is an alternative to the “stand-and-pose” parties. Lube and condoms always available. Two levels, three playrooms, leather sling, loft bed, glory holes. Diverse music. No one would be “required” to participate, so taking things slow or whatever, is up to you. Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions are probably not right for the vibe of this party. You can bring a friend if he fits these criteria. Thank you."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating
SS/BB: Safe Sex
DONATION: $20 (occasional comps for regulars or for a slow party)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms always available
TIME: 6pm to 11pm (doors close at 10pm) 
FREQUENCY: Every Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Thursday
CROWD: Height/weight proportional men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. 15-30 men.
AGE: Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Duplex: 1st floor and basement levels
LIGHTING: Not brightly lit, but enough light for the voyeurs. Candles, strip lighting, lasers, lava lamp, TV.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Middle aged men, 30-somethings, young guys who go for older, all races but two-thirds white, low maintenance
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions. Also not for high-maintenance types, those who place great emphasis on the gym, or have an attitude.
GETTING IN: Send age and pic to Scott at theorgyguy@gmail.com. Courtesy is always appreciated.



JACKS OF COLOR "MASSAGE AND PLAY MONDAY" (Chelsea) Jacks of Color (often referred to simply as J.O.C.) is a New York City Club For Men of Color "And Their Friends." One of my favorite of the "open door" general admission parties. It’s huge and has themed parties including leather, massage, and afternoons on weekends. And the host is one of the sweetest guys I've ever had the pleasure of meeting.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Not Selective
VIBE: no attitude
TIME: doors 7:00 to Midnight, goes 'til 2am
CROWD: 50-70
AGE: 18-60s
SS/BB: some safe sex, but also quite a bit of BB
SPACE: Paddles
SUPPLIES: Condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: Every Monday night, and often other weekday nights and weekends.
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: Send stats and pics to JacksOfColor@gmail.com or check out www.jacksofcolor.com




HANDSOMENYC.COM (Astoria, Queens) Host Hunteur brings his party to Astoria on Monday nights to the Rainbow Playground, home of the Omega parties.
THE HOST SAYS: “So many parties out there are all about the ‘sleaze.’ What’s wrong with bonding with a great group of exceptional, intelligent men- the sexy 'guy next door' type? All races welcome. This is a place to enjoy the company of handsome and good-hearted great quality guys with sense of community. We are supportive of the artistic community with nights devoted to the arts. Guest appearance by porn stars, fantasy dress up, as well as fun giveaways (underwear and porn), and great promotions to pull in hotter guys."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $22
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, cookies/cake, refreshments
TIME: 8pm to 3am, doors close at 1am.
FREQUENCY: Every Monday night
CROWD: Average attendance is 30 to 60 great quality guys
AGE: 23 to 55-ish
SPACE: A large industrial loft-type space with many private cabins and rooms and a cinema lounge.
LIGHTING: big space, 5000 sq. feet with several different lighting levels
A GOOD PARTY FOR: those who want an erotic connection with upscale sexy guys.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: guys with attitude or 'high-maintenance" types. The host is “looking for happy and upbeat dudes that want to add their good energy to the night.”
GETTING IN: Send pics and stats to Oliver at (hunteur1@gmail.com). You can find more info at (http://www.HandsomeNYC.com).




MUSCLE GROUP (West Harlem/w140s) This is a small sex party in a private apartment. This party can be hit and miss depending on how many and who show up, but when it's "hit" it can be a very hot party indeed. The best thing about this party is that it's one of the true orgies in the city. At most parties guys are having sex one-on-one or in threesomes--at this one there is more often than not a pile of guys fucking and sucking off each other.
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: no attitude
TIME: 9:30-11pm, occasionally lunch parties
CROWD: 4-10 guys, racially mixed very hot to average
AGES: 18-40 YOs
DONATION: Free
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
SPACE: small studio apartment
SUPPLIES: condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: parties at random, but often on Mondays,
LIGHTING: Excellent
GETTING IN: Send pics and Stats to: BIHUNKGROUP@aol.com


Tuesday, March 24th


AFTER WORK  (Midtown)
THE HOSTS SAY: "
After work mates! Lose the tie and corporate clothing! Get in, go in, and get off! Dozens of hard bodied hungry hot guys! Aren't you glad its the end of the day? I am! Show the invite on your phone to get in. All guys must be in shape!"
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Social and Friendly
SS/BB: A mix of safe sex and barebacking
DONATION: $20 entry, and clothes-check gratuities are appreciated
SUPPLIES: Condoms and Lube
TIME: 4pm-8pm
FREQUENCY: weekly
CROWD: 20-30 guys
AGE: All ages (over 21)
SPACE: private duplex apartment with two bathrooms
LIGHTING: 1st floor brightly lit. Second floor dark lighting
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who enjoy hooking up with masculine men for hot, hardcore, no-attitude fun.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy and modest guys.
GETTING IN: For invite please stats and pics to: Afterworkorgy@gmail.com


PEAK (Chelsea) One of the “Chelsea Duplex Parties” held in a space close to Penn Station.
THE HOST SAYS: “This is a spacious duplex apartment party for height/weight proportional (so please be) men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating vibe. This is an alternative to the “stand-and-pose” parties. Lube and condoms always available. Two levels, three playrooms, leather sling, loft bed, glory holes. Diverse music. No one would be “required” to participate, so taking things slow or whatever, is up to you. Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions are probably not right for the vibe of this party. You can bring a friend if he fits these criteria. Thank you."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating
SS/BB: Safe Sex
DONATION: $20 (occasional comps for regulars or for a slow party)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms always available
TIME: 6pm to 11:00pm (doors close at 10:00pm)

FREQUENCY: Every Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Thursday
CROWD: Height/weight proportional men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. 15-30 men.
AGE: Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Duplex: 1st floor and basement levels
LIGHTING: Not brightly lit, but enough light for the voyeurs. Candles, strip lighting, lasers, lava lamp, TV.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Middle aged men, 30-somethings, young guys who go for older, all races but two-thirds white, low maintenance
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions. Also not for high-maintenance types, those who place great emphasis on the gym, or have an attitude.
GETTING IN: Send age and pic to Scott at theorgyguy@gmail.com. Courtesy is always appreciated.


NEW YORK JACKS (Chelsea) Safe-sex party for guys who like to jerk off.
THE HOSTS SAY: "Get naked with us and enjoy man to man cock play....Mutual masturbation between consenting adults is legal and safe. Probably the safest activity you can do except for solo J/O. We are a friendly group of guys and we are all there for the same reason and to have fun. You'll see guys there of all ages, body types, sizes, etc. There will be tall, short, hairy, well endowed, young, older, all races, gay, married, bi-, etc. We don't discriminate against physical attributes, only inappropriate behavior."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Not Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS/BB: N/A
DONATION: $25 ($20 with membership card)
SUPPLIES: N/A
TIME: Doors open 7pm to 9pm, jerking until 10pm
FREQUENCY: Every Sunday and Tuesday. (Check for different hours on Sunday.)
CROWD: Varies, all type of bodies, races, and ages from hot young guys to muscle guys to older guys. (Usual attendance numbers have not been given.)
AGES: 18-60s
SS/BB: N/A
SPACE: Paddles Sex Club
SUPPLIES: N/A
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: Request location and directions at their site: http://www.nyjacks.com/
Follow them on Twitter twitter.com/nyjacks and on Tumblr at nyjacks.tumblr.com



BEARCAVE TUESDAY (Gramercy)
THE HOSTS SAY: “This is an all-inclusive party for all big men of different shapes, sizes, races, and their admirers. Bringing the Bear and Chub Communities together for hot steamy week night of fun. A great way for anyone looking to get off early in the work week."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Social and Friendly
SS/BB: A mix of safe sex and barebacking
DONATION: $20, and clothes-check gratuities are appreciated
SUPPLIES: Condoms and Lube
TIME: 8pm-Midnight (Doors close at 11pm)
FREQUENCY: Weekly
CROWD: 30-40 guys, all welcome: bears, jocks, muscle bears, cubs, chubs, super chubs, twinks, otters, wolves, and bulls. Also guys who have small dicks and need a place to feel comfortable.
AGE: All ages (over 21)
SPACE: Private duplex apartment with two bathrooms
LIGHTING: Good, some darker areas upstairs
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who enjoy hooking up with hairy masculine men. Friendly, outgoing individuals who enjoy interracial interaction. Men into facial hair, tattoos, and fur-covered action. Guys who like small dicks and chubby dudes.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy and modest guys. Men with racial hang-ups. Guys who like to parTy.
GETTING IN: Request invite at: bearcavenyc@verizon.net


Wednesday, March 25th

REAL MEN ONLY (RMO) PARTY (Fresh Meadows) "Slurpee Coach has the parties in his apartment."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Not Selective
VIBE: No Attitude
TIME: 7-11pm (Wednesday), early afternoon-evening (Saturday)
CROWD: TK
SS/BB: TK
SPACE: Private apartment
SUPPLIES: condom/lube
FREQUENCY: weekly (Wednesday), occasionally (Saturday)
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: email pics/stats here: slurpeecoach@hotmail.com

THE BEAR PARTY (Times Square)
THE HOST SAYS: "NYC's premier sex party for bears, cubs, chubs and chasers."
Clothes check policy at the Time Square location. It's completely nude so no underwear is allowed; however, if you're shy they have small towels you can hold over yourself.
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: S/S and BB. "We encourage safe sex and provide condoms and lube but don't police it. "
DONATION: $25
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube
TIME: 7:00-11:00, doors close at 10pm
FREQUENCY: Weekly on Sundays and Wednesdays
CROWD: 30-50 guys of all ages
LOCATION: Times Square Loft
LIGHTING: Good, dark in some rooms
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races, average and out-of-shape guys.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies. Guys who like to parTy.
GETTING IN: For more info you may contact info@bearpartynyc.com or go to bearpartynyc.com to join



HANDSOMENYC.COM (Chelsea) THE HOST SAYS: “So many parties out there are all about the ‘sleaze.’ What’s wrong with bonding with a great group of exceptional, intelligent men- the sexy 'guy next door' type? All races welcome. This is a place to enjoy the company of handsome and good-hearted great quality guys with sense of community, we also offer totally free STD Testing and referral to free health care for life and also referral to Harm Reduction Services. We have a permanent medical office on location. You do not need to pay the entrance fee to access our services- you may get tested and leave. We are supportive of the artistic community with nights devoted to the arts. Guest appearance by porn stars, fantasy dress up, as well as fun giveaways (underwear and porn), and great promotions to pull in hotter guys."
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: No attitude
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $22 before 9pm, $27 after, or use your silver VIP card for $22 admission all night long.
SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, cookies/cake, refreshments
TIME: 8pm to 3am, doors close at 1am.
FREQUENCY: Every Wednesday night
CROWD: Average attendance is 30 to 60 great quality guys
AGE: 23 to 55-ish
SPACE: Paddles – a huge, clean, 5000 sq. feet of professional play space. A fully licensed Commercial Sex Venue licensed by the state and also licensed as a medical off-site testing facility with a secure guarded area to keep your belongings locked up and safe.
LIGHTING: big space, 5000 sq. feet with several different lighting levels
A GOOD PARTY FOR: those who want an erotic connection with upscale sexy guys.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: guys with attitude or 'high-maintenance" types. The host is “looking for happy and upbeat dudes that want to add their good energy to the night.”
GETTING IN: Send pics and stats to Oliver at (hunteur1@gmail.com). You can find more info at (http://www.HandsomeNYC.com).



Thursday, March 26th

EXECUTIVE LUNCH (Gramercy)
THE HOSTS SAY: “Lunch-time party for businessmen looking to hook up weekday afternoons, offering guys who generally can't play during the evening hours (because of wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, or partnered) a chance to bust a quick afternoon nut in a large group setting.”
VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Social and Friendly
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $20 entry, and clothes-check gratuities are appreciated
SUPPLIES: Condoms and Lube
TIME: 12pm-3pm
FREQUENCY: weekly
CROWD: 30-40 guys, all races welcome, a mixture of gay, bi, and straight-curious men looking to explore their sexuality in a safe environment.
AGE: 21-55, most guys in their 30's and 40's
SPACE: private duplex apartment with two bathrooms
LIGHTING: Good, some darker rooms upstairs
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who enjoy hooking up with the suit-and-tie crowd. Friendly, outgoing individuals who enjoy interracial interaction. Men in their 30s and 40s and Jocks who like older Daddy types. Guys who find wedding rings a turn-on.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Shy and modest guys. Men with racial hang-ups. Guys who like to parTy.
GETTING IN: Send pic (shirtless from the waist up is fine) and Stats to: executivelunchnyc@gmail.com. You can find more info at: www.gayguysglobal.net



THE OMEGA PARTY (Long Island City, Queens) Large party in a huge industrial loft-type space with private rooms, booths, a "cinema lounge" and one particularly dubious pitch-black area. Only 10 minutes from Manhattan. A good party for average guys. THE HOST SAYS: "Hot playground with mixed crowd: Latinos , Blacks, Whites, Asians, twinks, muscle guys and bears."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Open Door
VIBE: Laid back
SS/BB: Safe Sex and BB
DONATION: $15
SUPPLIES: Refreshments , snacks, condoms and lube
TIME: 5:30pm-3am
FREQUENCY: Every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday
CROWD: 70 to 120 guys per party, racially mixed (60% white, 40% mixed).
AGE: age ranges from 40s to 70YOs
SPACE: former warehouse-type space loft
LIGHTING: Mostly good, some spaces pitch black
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys into all different races especially Latinos, average and out-of-shape guys, guys into anon scenes.
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys with racial or age hang-ups, guys only into gym bodies.
GETTING IN: For more party info contact the hosts at playgroundqueens@aol.com


PEAK (Chelsea) One of the “Chelsea Duplex Parties” held in a space close to Penn Station.
THE HOST SAYS: “This is a spacious duplex apartment party for height/weight proportional (so please be) men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating vibe. This is an alternative to the “stand-and-pose” parties. Lube and condoms always available. Two levels, three playrooms, leather sling, loft bed, glory holes. Diverse music. No one would be “required” to participate, so taking things slow or whatever, is up to you. Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions are probably not right for the vibe of this party. You can bring a friend if he fits these criteria. Thank you."

VERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Somewhat Selective
VIBE: Relaxed, friendly, non-intimidating
SS/BB: Safe Sex
DONATION: $20 (occasional comps for regulars or for a slow party)
SUPPLIES: Lube and condoms always available
TIME: 6pm to 11pm (doors close at 10pm)

FREQUENCY: Every Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Thursday
CROWD: Height/weight proportional men of all ages and races. Most are over age 30, all are over 18. 15-30 men.
AGE: Most are over age 30, all are over 18. Average age is early 40s.
SPACE: Duplex: 1st floor and basement levels
LIGHTING: Not brightly lit, but enough light for the voyeurs. Candles, strip lighting, lasers, lava lamp, TV.
A GOOD PARTY FOR: Middle aged men, 30-somethings, young guys who go for older, all races but two-thirds white, low maintenance
NOT A GOOD PARTY FOR: Guys who are exceptionally nervous or have lots of questions. Also not for high-maintenance types, those who place great emphasis on the gym, or have an attitude.
GETTING IN: Send age and pic to Scott at theorgyguy@gmail.com. Courtesy is always appreciated.


ERUPTION (Elizabeth, NJ) THE HOST SAYS: "ERUPTION is the place where you can let loose and let go! Explore your sexual curiosity, indulge in your fantasies, and release your sexual tensions. We're looking for hot men, no older than 40 years old, that want to get down with other hot men. Black, Hispanic and Caucasian crowd preferred. Pictures are necessary and oovoo is used for verification if pictures aren't available."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: Unknown
SS/BB: Barebacking and safe sex
DONATION: $20 

SUPPLIES: Condoms, lube, drinks, shower and towel
TIME: 11:30pm-3am
FREQUENCY: different dates - not a regularly scheduled party
CROWD: unknown
AGE: 21 to 40
SPACE: Private home
LIGHTING: Unknown
GETTING IN: Send pics and stats to eruptionnights@gmail.com. More info available at eruptnow.blogspot.com.


FINAL DESTINATION (Crown Heights, Brooklyn) 
From the host: "This is an all nude party. No exception and no negotiation about it at all. Strip at door. For fit men in shape only, no one waist over 36 will not get in."
UNVERIFIED SPECIFICS
DOOR POLICY: Selective
VIBE: no attitude.
TIME: SUN. 11:30pm-4am
CROWD: AGES: mostly 20s and 30s, few in-shape men in their 40s
DONATION: $10 all night
SS/BB: A safe sex party
SPACE: private apartment
SUPPLIES: Drinks, snacks, condoms/lube
FREQUENCY: Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays.
LIGHTING: Good
GETTING IN: send stats and pics to finaldestination1514@yahoo.com



See you there men, and let's be careful out there!